In a 2009 study, a whopping 90% of new parents report a decrease in marital satisfaction following the birth of their first child. As you fall in love with your baby, the extra demands often stress your connection with your spouse. It’s helpful during these times to remember that a happy marriage doesn’t just happen, it’s the result of ongoing communication and commitment. It’s also good to know that marital satisfaction increases with time, provided you’re willing to put in the effort.
How is your marriage now? Do you find yourself short-tempered around your spouse and quick to argue or complain? Maybe you feel like your world has been turned upside down, but they are blissfully unchanged by their new role. Lack of sleep may be your biggest enemy right now, not your spouse. They are likely overwhelmed by this new responsibility and may not know how to help out.
Mom Dare: Devote time each day this week to improving your connection with your partner. Resist all urges to complain or argue. Use words of love and gratitude. Offer to do a small task like picking up the dry cleaning or preparing breakfast. If your relationship has been strained, don’t expect to be instantly compensated for your kindness. Feeding a starved marriage takes time and patience. For more ideas on improving your relationship, visit this blog by marriage expert, Lori Lowe: http://lifegems4marriage.com/2010/04/15/what-have-you-done-for-your-marriage-today/
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